My husband too is claiming that he has nothing but negative feelings for his AP. He is going as far as to say that toward the end, before I confronted him with my evidence and we had it out, he claims that the couple of weeks before then, he'd come to dislike the affair and was desperate for a way out, realizing he didn't live our even feel attracted to her anymore... I don't know. The way he acted toward me during the initial phase totally contradicts his claims. He was acting as if I had destroyed his most precious link in the world. During the weeks he claims He no longer cared for the affair, he had actually ramped up the amount of time he spent with her, evaluated to spending money on her, and spoke incessantly about her, forbid me to speak ill of her, under threat of "ruining his mood with unfounded pettiness against his "friend"." To me, it's all a cover. He thinks he is saying what I want to hear. He thinks he is sparing my feelings, but what I want is the truth... I have had months of lies and betrayal, and I just want that phase over. I want honesty and truth... no matter how ugly or painful. At least with the truth, I can begin rebuilding instead of wasting time second guessing every word he says.
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My husband too is claiming that he has nothing but negative feelings for his AP. He is going as far as to say that toward the end, before I confronted him with my evidence and we had it out, he claims that the couple of weeks before then, he'd come to dislike the affair and was desperate for a way out, realizing he didn't live our even feel attracted to her anymore... I don't know. The way he acted toward me during the initial phase totally contradicts his claims. He was acting as if I had destroyed his most precious link in the world. During the weeks he claims He no longer cared for the affair, he had actually ramped up the amount of time he spent with her, evaluated to spending money on her, and spoke incessantly about her, forbid me to speak ill of her, under threat of "ruining his mood with unfounded pettiness against his "friend"." To me, it's all a cover. He thinks he is saying what I want to hear. He thinks he is sparing my feelings, but what I want is the truth... I have had months of lies and betrayal, and I just want that phase over. I want honesty and truth... no matter how ugly or painful. At least with the truth, I can begin rebuilding instead of wasting time second guessing every word he says.