Affair Details

I have a couple questions;

When referencing the Peggy Vaughn data regarding the correlation between openness to answering questions and marriage viability. Were the subjects limited in the scope of details they were allowed to ask the betraying spouse? If not wouldn't that limitation if enforced play a roll?

Secondly, for me the amount sexual activity and dating during out separation has kind of rolled into her affair. Am I wrong for feeling this way? She currently has begged to reconcile after sewing her proverbial oats so to speak.