Sadcheater, that's hard to deal with i bet for sure. question for you though, how long has he known about your affair? shifting focus is not easy and is something that will take time to do, and more than likely the betrayed spouse will only do it once they are wanting to heal. it doesn't sound like he wants to heal and like he's still stuck in the anger of it all? when you say three years, does that mean you've been married three years? if you're comfortable, how long has he known about the affair as that may help me encourage you with some insight. shifting focus can take time, but if a betrayed spouse is still angry, and wants to remain angry and doesn't want to heal, then that's overwhelmingly hard to process through. have you all gotten any kind of help at all? is he open you think to even a last ditch effort to get help? maybe the ems weekend on the site is something he would consider to get help and insight before finally giving up and wanting that divorce? i'll check back today to see if you answer. i'm sorry i haven't answered till now, but didn't see the comment and i've heard the notifications on the site are a bit iffy right now.
sadcheater.....I'm so sorry
Sadcheater, that's hard to deal with i bet for sure. question for you though, how long has he known about your affair? shifting focus is not easy and is something that will take time to do, and more than likely the betrayed spouse will only do it once they are wanting to heal. it doesn't sound like he wants to heal and like he's still stuck in the anger of it all? when you say three years, does that mean you've been married three years? if you're comfortable, how long has he known about the affair as that may help me encourage you with some insight. shifting focus can take time, but if a betrayed spouse is still angry, and wants to remain angry and doesn't want to heal, then that's overwhelmingly hard to process through. have you all gotten any kind of help at all? is he open you think to even a last ditch effort to get help? maybe the ems weekend on the site is something he would consider to get help and insight before finally giving up and wanting that divorce? i'll check back today to see if you answer. i'm sorry i haven't answered till now, but didn't see the comment and i've heard the notifications on the site are a bit iffy right now.