I could have written your

I could have written your comments myself even down to the timeline and the same conclusion. My husband is still in contact with his AP. I have been fighting for my marriage for 18 months doing everything possible short of matching his ambivalence (i really liked the blog on this subject matter) which I struggle to do as i find it so disrespectful and goes against the very grain of my being. My husband constantly says we're just roommates which i vehemently disagree with (a roommate doesn't cook, clean, manage the financials or take care of the children) and the lack of physical intimacy is entirely on his part (he'll cross the room to avoid brushing past me).