mine did the same to me. I couldn't do anything right according to him. I felt worthless. I actually suspected his affair during this time and would get up in the middle of the night and go through his car, pockets, phone, etc... I thought he didn't love me anymore and wondered what I was doing that was so wrong... But they HAVE to make you the villain during this time to make what they are doing okay in themselves; to internally rationalize it within themselves. If you were actually the good wife that you were, they couldn't tell the OW how great you were. Mine actually got in a fight with the OW at the end because she found a sweet text on his phone that I sent him and she called him out on it saying how he told her what a witch I was... That was the day I finally had PROOF of his affair because he came home noticeably agitated and forgot to delete their texts. She was just a constant ego stroke - a fantasy - that he didn't have to do anything real to sustain. I was real. Of course it happened again because he needs constant validation and I couldn't look at him with that love and admiration I'd once had anymore once I knew how weak he really was and he wasn't willing to see it was his own issue he needed to address. I worked on my own issue of why I was willing to stay with someone who was willing to treat me that way in the first place. Now I never will do that again.
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Hi Butterflies....
mine did the same to me. I couldn't do anything right according to him. I felt worthless. I actually suspected his affair during this time and would get up in the middle of the night and go through his car, pockets, phone, etc... I thought he didn't love me anymore and wondered what I was doing that was so wrong... But they HAVE to make you the villain during this time to make what they are doing okay in themselves; to internally rationalize it within themselves. If you were actually the good wife that you were, they couldn't tell the OW how great you were. Mine actually got in a fight with the OW at the end because she found a sweet text on his phone that I sent him and she called him out on it saying how he told her what a witch I was... That was the day I finally had PROOF of his affair because he came home noticeably agitated and forgot to delete their texts. She was just a constant ego stroke - a fantasy - that he didn't have to do anything real to sustain. I was real. Of course it happened again because he needs constant validation and I couldn't look at him with that love and admiration I'd once had anymore once I knew how weak he really was and he wasn't willing to see it was his own issue he needed to address. I worked on my own issue of why I was willing to stay with someone who was willing to treat me that way in the first place. Now I never will do that again.