Yes

Well said, Diana. Eighteen months, two emotional affairs, four therapists, and one marriage weekend later, I am still praying that he will finally "get it" and we will be able to truly move forward. I now refuse to take any blame for the lame justifications that he gave for doing what he did. At least I've grown in that respect and no longer believe that it was me that caused it. Thank you for putting it into words so well.