Samuel, I am fighting the battle against anger and resentment right now. And losing big time! For 18 months, I believed both of my husband's affairs with the same woman were just emotional. I took Harboring Hope and we attended an EMS weekend. I worked through the pain, had put the affairs on the back burner and did not feel any anger. I moved back home this past July. Then 3 weeks later, evidence emerges that shows he had been lying about the affairs being only emotional, and they were really physical and very deeply connected. Evidence has been trickling in since then. I feel betrayed all over again and the anger and resentment has returned even more than before. So my question is: Is it 18 - 24 months after the last disclosure that this battle may rage inside me? The last disclosure on October 13 was a text from his AP telling me about things they did, gifts he bought, trips they took, etc. I feel like I am back at square one, but everybody seems to think I should be over it by now because I already grieved my way through the initial discovery. What are your thoughts on this?
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Samuel, I am fighting the battle against anger and resentment right now. And losing big time! For 18 months, I believed both of my husband's affairs with the same woman were just emotional. I took Harboring Hope and we attended an EMS weekend. I worked through the pain, had put the affairs on the back burner and did not feel any anger. I moved back home this past July. Then 3 weeks later, evidence emerges that shows he had been lying about the affairs being only emotional, and they were really physical and very deeply connected. Evidence has been trickling in since then. I feel betrayed all over again and the anger and resentment has returned even more than before. So my question is: Is it 18 - 24 months after the last disclosure that this battle may rage inside me? The last disclosure on October 13 was a text from his AP telling me about things they did, gifts he bought, trips they took, etc. I feel like I am back at square one, but everybody seems to think I should be over it by now because I already grieved my way through the initial discovery. What are your thoughts on this?