I am the betrayed spouse and have been yo-yoing for 4 months since d-day. According to my husband of 16 years he has only ceased contact with AP 3 Weeks ago- (which I am not sure I even believe!) (He actually increased his frequency of contact with her after Dday!) we are separated now and I have both shamed and shut him out- #1 & #2 of betrayed spouse response to pain as listed above.
I am participating in HH- but I feel that keeping him away is the only way that I can survive the devastation and depression I am now feeling. I understand it is common, but my question is: Is it unhealthy?
I want to heal and move on in a healthy way. I am less anxious having no contact and completely flood if we do have communication. How do I proceed in a healthy way?
Deadening pain
I am the betrayed spouse and have been yo-yoing for 4 months since d-day. According to my husband of 16 years he has only ceased contact with AP 3 Weeks ago- (which I am not sure I even believe!) (He actually increased his frequency of contact with her after Dday!) we are separated now and I have both shamed and shut him out- #1 & #2 of betrayed spouse response to pain as listed above.
I am participating in HH- but I feel that keeping him away is the only way that I can survive the devastation and depression I am now feeling. I understand it is common, but my question is: Is it unhealthy?
I want to heal and move on in a healthy way. I am less anxious having no contact and completely flood if we do have communication. How do I proceed in a healthy way?