Dear Jen, Thank you for your beautiful article. All of this has been so true for me and even three years after disclosure I still have this dance of ambivalence. But much shorter lived and much more data to support my safety. There is a risk to be vulnerable in any relationship but after painful betrayals, it can feel overwhelming. Yes, my spouse is one in the same, the man who did things that turned my security upside down and the man who offers to help me heal. I do find solace in knowing I am not alone in craziness and my struggle to heal. Take care 💜
Totally relate
Dear Jen, Thank you for your beautiful article. All of this has been so true for me and even three years after disclosure I still have this dance of ambivalence. But much shorter lived and much more data to support my safety. There is a risk to be vulnerable in any relationship but after painful betrayals, it can feel overwhelming. Yes, my spouse is one in the same, the man who did things that turned my security upside down and the man who offers to help me heal. I do find solace in knowing I am not alone in craziness and my struggle to heal. Take care 💜