I am trying to love my husband in the "in between"...it has been 15 months since d-day, however, I "truth tricked" until about 9 months ago. Since then, he has known everything....complete honesty and openness. His response to that honesty was exactly why I feared giving it in the first place. He has yelled and me and called me names(just about everyone you can think of...and often in front of our 3 year old), broken and thrown away items of monetary and sentimental value ( 2 laptop computers, large mirrors I used to teach Zumba, my cell phone, my ninja blender, our wedding guest book, flower vases we used at our wedding, photos, a book of mine, my nail polish collection), he has posted rude and crude things to my social media accounts, sent emails to my friends and co-workers about my emotional infidelity, locked me out of the bedroom, threatened to kill himself and burn our house down, attempted to pour bleach on all my clothes, taken away my wedding rings and other jewelry, said cruel things about my family and my deceased parents, spent thousands of dollars on random stuff on amazon (when we have plenty of debt), taken my keys and purse so I couldn't use the house, locked me out of my phone and the computer so I couldn't contact anyone...
so my question is this...when does it cross the line from "dealing with my anger" to emotional abuse? I know it would be rough...but a lot of this behavior seems to cross the line. I don't feel like I am loving him well if I allow it to continue. ADVICE?
but when is it too much?
I am trying to love my husband in the "in between"...it has been 15 months since d-day, however, I "truth tricked" until about 9 months ago. Since then, he has known everything....complete honesty and openness. His response to that honesty was exactly why I feared giving it in the first place. He has yelled and me and called me names(just about everyone you can think of...and often in front of our 3 year old), broken and thrown away items of monetary and sentimental value ( 2 laptop computers, large mirrors I used to teach Zumba, my cell phone, my ninja blender, our wedding guest book, flower vases we used at our wedding, photos, a book of mine, my nail polish collection), he has posted rude and crude things to my social media accounts, sent emails to my friends and co-workers about my emotional infidelity, locked me out of the bedroom, threatened to kill himself and burn our house down, attempted to pour bleach on all my clothes, taken away my wedding rings and other jewelry, said cruel things about my family and my deceased parents, spent thousands of dollars on random stuff on amazon (when we have plenty of debt), taken my keys and purse so I couldn't use the house, locked me out of my phone and the computer so I couldn't contact anyone...
so my question is this...when does it cross the line from "dealing with my anger" to emotional abuse? I know it would be rough...but a lot of this behavior seems to cross the line. I don't feel like I am loving him well if I allow it to continue. ADVICE?