Great read. My wife and I are

Great read. My wife and I are close to our 16th anniversary. Cindy is my wife exactly - from circumstances (me being gone for work, old boyfriend who cheated on her) to thought process (rewriting the past, villianizing me to cover the guilt, deserving to be "happy" instead of being miserable with me). I have evidence of a physical affair, but she will not admit. Even though we are 9 months in, I'm still "crazy" because they are "just friends." I am not pursuing it aggressively or being nasty. I just make it clear that I know but am still able to display kindness and love for her. It is what it is. I am at peace because I know God is in control.

She left our home with our young son 2 months ago and is fast tracking a divorce. He had to leave the only home/school/friends he has ever known. She has even rationalized that this will be better for him and that "kids are resilient." We are pretty much a textbook case. In any case, this community is incredibly helpful and I know there is purpose behind this pain. I pray for my wife and son daily. Please pray for her/us as well. Thanks so much.