Thank you for clarifying why I am not able to trust my husband - I don't feel safe. My husband has had two physical affairs in the past ten years. Our marriage has also been tainted with my husband's addiction to pornography. All of the suggestions in the video to help the betrayed feel safe have not worked for me...perhaps it is because there seems to be never-ending D-days. The last D-day was six months ago and we have been separated since then. He has never come forward with any information but only "comes clean" after he has been caught. He has never volunteered to give me access to his FB, email or change his phone number - those were all my suggestions which he eventually did two years after his last affair. He doesn't think he needs to put any guard on his phone (how he was viewing porn) because he is "healed" (for the 2nd time) and it isn't an issue anymore. It is about feeling safe and I'm not sure I will ever have safety again.
It's About Safety
Thank you for clarifying why I am not able to trust my husband - I don't feel safe. My husband has had two physical affairs in the past ten years. Our marriage has also been tainted with my husband's addiction to pornography. All of the suggestions in the video to help the betrayed feel safe have not worked for me...perhaps it is because there seems to be never-ending D-days. The last D-day was six months ago and we have been separated since then. He has never come forward with any information but only "comes clean" after he has been caught. He has never volunteered to give me access to his FB, email or change his phone number - those were all my suggestions which he eventually did two years after his last affair. He doesn't think he needs to put any guard on his phone (how he was viewing porn) because he is "healed" (for the 2nd time) and it isn't an issue anymore. It is about feeling safe and I'm not sure I will ever have safety again.