Hello, it’s been just over a year now since my wife admitted to her affair. I questioned her over the previous 2 years but she denied it. It wasn’t until last year after she had moved out that she came clean. Even then it was a mistake that I got the truth. She left the family home in May last year saying she needed space. Then she accidentally sent a text to me saying he’d had told his wife everything. The message was meant be be for her friend. I believed that he was moving in with her but panicked once he told his wife. She then told me it was over and they had both agreed. She then told me she wanted to try again but I don’t want to be the booby prize. We’ve had counselling but that didn’t go well. The counsellor spoke to my wife about the affair and how sorry she was but then it was turned on me. I lost my career and identity due to illness. I am unable to work and have suffered with depression since this happening. The blame was shifted to me. I know I’m to blame partly but I don’t think this justifys having an affair. My wife wants to move on but there are too many inconsistency’s in her story. I need help but I’m not getting it from seeing a counsellor. She tells me I’m stuck and she cannot help me until I accept the facts my wife is telling me. Help please
Stuck
Hello, it’s been just over a year now since my wife admitted to her affair. I questioned her over the previous 2 years but she denied it. It wasn’t until last year after she had moved out that she came clean. Even then it was a mistake that I got the truth. She left the family home in May last year saying she needed space. Then she accidentally sent a text to me saying he’d had told his wife everything. The message was meant be be for her friend. I believed that he was moving in with her but panicked once he told his wife. She then told me it was over and they had both agreed. She then told me she wanted to try again but I don’t want to be the booby prize. We’ve had counselling but that didn’t go well. The counsellor spoke to my wife about the affair and how sorry she was but then it was turned on me. I lost my career and identity due to illness. I am unable to work and have suffered with depression since this happening. The blame was shifted to me. I know I’m to blame partly but I don’t think this justifys having an affair. My wife wants to move on but there are too many inconsistency’s in her story. I need help but I’m not getting it from seeing a counsellor. She tells me I’m stuck and she cannot help me until I accept the facts my wife is telling me. Help please