Dear Jen, thank you once again for writing that perfectly mirrors my experience as a betrayed spouse. I'm seven months into this process of Healing, still exploring new territory, but I am finding that the Pain has become like a comfortable old sweater: it does not dominate me the way it did early on, and I know now it will pass. So I pray and I exercise and I talk with friends and I find Joy wherever I can (and it's all around me, all the time). I have this theory that there is a pool of Grace and Love beneath the emotions/feelings/reminders/triggers/our own thinking that we can access. You could call it God's love, or the deep calm of the Universe, but I just know there's some beautiful force beyond the turmoil we survivors go thru every day. I am trying to harness the energy of the Pain and use it to spring forward to a new plateau of Loving Kindness. This requires me to focus on the positives, be grateful all the time, force my wandering brain away from the "old sweater" concept of the Pain. It takes courage and determination, but with God's grace, I really feel like I am making progress. I hope you, and me, and all the other beautiful souls struggling with betrayal find some peace today. Thank you. Raphael
how do you know if you are healing part two
Dear Jen, thank you once again for writing that perfectly mirrors my experience as a betrayed spouse. I'm seven months into this process of Healing, still exploring new territory, but I am finding that the Pain has become like a comfortable old sweater: it does not dominate me the way it did early on, and I know now it will pass. So I pray and I exercise and I talk with friends and I find Joy wherever I can (and it's all around me, all the time). I have this theory that there is a pool of Grace and Love beneath the emotions/feelings/reminders/triggers/our own thinking that we can access. You could call it God's love, or the deep calm of the Universe, but I just know there's some beautiful force beyond the turmoil we survivors go thru every day. I am trying to harness the energy of the Pain and use it to spring forward to a new plateau of Loving Kindness. This requires me to focus on the positives, be grateful all the time, force my wandering brain away from the "old sweater" concept of the Pain. It takes courage and determination, but with God's grace, I really feel like I am making progress. I hope you, and me, and all the other beautiful souls struggling with betrayal find some peace today. Thank you. Raphael