That would be so great to hear instead of "I don't want to talk about it any more. I've owned up to it, and can't undo it. If you want to keep harping on it and feeling sorry for yourself leave me out of it". You are lucky to be able to move forward. No things can't be undone but pain unacknowledged can turn into something else. I hope more husbands share their story of being betrayed, it is lonely thinking you're the only one. I'm in year 3 after D day evidently going solo. Not sure how this ends, if it weren't for kids and grands I would already be gone (I think). Triggers are still abundant but not as destructive. Kind of living together, apart. Separate rooms is more the norm as you may imagine other things as well. But one comment like you revealed could change everything,gives hope. Thanks for sharing.
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That would be so great to hear instead of "I don't want to talk about it any more. I've owned up to it, and can't undo it. If you want to keep harping on it and feeling sorry for yourself leave me out of it". You are lucky to be able to move forward. No things can't be undone but pain unacknowledged can turn into something else. I hope more husbands share their story of being betrayed, it is lonely thinking you're the only one. I'm in year 3 after D day evidently going solo. Not sure how this ends, if it weren't for kids and grands I would already be gone (I think). Triggers are still abundant but not as destructive. Kind of living together, apart. Separate rooms is more the norm as you may imagine other things as well. But one comment like you revealed could change everything,gives hope. Thanks for sharing.