I too am still stuck. 3 yrs 9 months ago was my 1st D day. First of many D Days which included 2 other physical affairs in the past 12 years. The last affair was with a girl the same age as our youngest daughter and that physical affair lasted 3 years. My husband was 54 and she was 29. I was 56 at discovery. We have been married for 41 years now. We attended EMS weekend in September 2016. 3 days after returning I received a text from his affair partner telling me he had followed her to Sonic and told her he still loved her. This occurred 3 days before we went to EMS which they strongly suggested that all should be revealed, yet he did not confess there. He did admit when I confronted him that he did follow her but he didn’t tell her he still loved her. He is still in denial to this day about that because he claims it was only a “friendly” thing. Anyone who has dealt with infidelity KNOWS there should be NO CONTACT!! I am still trying to do all and anything I can to get past this tremendous trauma. It’s hard to accept that the person you are married to, who was active and faithfully attended church twice a week, was actually living a double life for so many years. When the betrayer has “no empathy” and just does not “get it”, makes it very hard for the betrayed to heal. I KNOW deep in my heart that I am doing what God has directed me to do. Honor the covenant I made with God and my husband 41 years ago. I am now dealing with anxiety and depression but I will not give up on praying and believing that God WILL restore what the enemy has stolen. It helps to remember that our spouse is not our enemy but Satan IS our enemy and has blinded our spouse to destroy our entire family. We have a beautiful family with 3 children and 4 grandchildren. Just wanted to encourage you and let you know that you are NOT alone. Continue to stand for the restoration of your marriage. With God ALL things are possible and He is faithful!! Don’t give up and allow the enemy to win. Pray for your wife and ask God to allow you to see her as God sees her. He created her in his image and has a purpose for her life, being your wife!! She is not the mistakes she has made but is who God created her to be. Put her at the feet of Jesus and pray for her with all that you have. The prayer of a husband or wife is the most powerful prayers. It breaks my heart to hear that your wife doesn’t get it. One day she will be the wife that God blessed you with and she will love and honor you as a Godly wife should. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
You are not alone
I too am still stuck. 3 yrs 9 months ago was my 1st D day. First of many D Days which included 2 other physical affairs in the past 12 years. The last affair was with a girl the same age as our youngest daughter and that physical affair lasted 3 years. My husband was 54 and she was 29. I was 56 at discovery. We have been married for 41 years now. We attended EMS weekend in September 2016. 3 days after returning I received a text from his affair partner telling me he had followed her to Sonic and told her he still loved her. This occurred 3 days before we went to EMS which they strongly suggested that all should be revealed, yet he did not confess there. He did admit when I confronted him that he did follow her but he didn’t tell her he still loved her. He is still in denial to this day about that because he claims it was only a “friendly” thing. Anyone who has dealt with infidelity KNOWS there should be NO CONTACT!! I am still trying to do all and anything I can to get past this tremendous trauma. It’s hard to accept that the person you are married to, who was active and faithfully attended church twice a week, was actually living a double life for so many years. When the betrayer has “no empathy” and just does not “get it”, makes it very hard for the betrayed to heal. I KNOW deep in my heart that I am doing what God has directed me to do. Honor the covenant I made with God and my husband 41 years ago. I am now dealing with anxiety and depression but I will not give up on praying and believing that God WILL restore what the enemy has stolen. It helps to remember that our spouse is not our enemy but Satan IS our enemy and has blinded our spouse to destroy our entire family. We have a beautiful family with 3 children and 4 grandchildren. Just wanted to encourage you and let you know that you are NOT alone. Continue to stand for the restoration of your marriage. With God ALL things are possible and He is faithful!! Don’t give up and allow the enemy to win. Pray for your wife and ask God to allow you to see her as God sees her. He created her in his image and has a purpose for her life, being your wife!! She is not the mistakes she has made but is who God created her to be. Put her at the feet of Jesus and pray for her with all that you have. The prayer of a husband or wife is the most powerful prayers. It breaks my heart to hear that your wife doesn’t get it. One day she will be the wife that God blessed you with and she will love and honor you as a Godly wife should. 🙏🙏🙏🙏