hi there. there is a point when enough is enough and the damage is done and he's unwilling to heal and do what it takes and you have to move on to help repair the damage and heal you. you have hope in the Lord, but you have to ask the Lord when enough is enough and when you should consider moving on and no longer waiting for him. you need help. you should give some thought to the ems weekend, not for 'saving' the marriage but for healing personally and developing a protocol to give the marriage a chance over a period of time, where work is being done. if he gets to be in the middle, he'll stay in the middle. if he gets to not decide and there are no consequence, then he'll continue to do that. people will sober up or change typicallyl due to 1. pain, 2. consequences 3. loss and right now there isn't much of those in his life and those are tutors that lead us to change and humility. hope all this helps you.
yes there is a point...
hi there. there is a point when enough is enough and the damage is done and he's unwilling to heal and do what it takes and you have to move on to help repair the damage and heal you. you have hope in the Lord, but you have to ask the Lord when enough is enough and when you should consider moving on and no longer waiting for him. you need help. you should give some thought to the ems weekend, not for 'saving' the marriage but for healing personally and developing a protocol to give the marriage a chance over a period of time, where work is being done. if he gets to be in the middle, he'll stay in the middle. if he gets to not decide and there are no consequence, then he'll continue to do that. people will sober up or change typicallyl due to 1. pain, 2. consequences 3. loss and right now there isn't much of those in his life and those are tutors that lead us to change and humility. hope all this helps you.