Can unfaithful spouses feel a sense of being stuck in their affairs? My husband tells me that the reason his affair lasted so long was that he didn’t know how to get out of it--that he knew I'd divorce him if I found out. (My first marriage ended in divorce because of an exit affair.) He says he worked hard at just trying to “manage it” because he DID recognize what he had to lose. That if he just kept his affair partner--who happened to be my friend--happy then he knew she wouldn’t expose the affair and cause me pain. He says during the "no contact" times throughout their affair, he had a sense of relief when she’d reach out because then he didn’t have the constant worry of the secret being exposed. When he finally told me about the affair, he said it was because he could no longer live the life he was living, even though he knew how much the affair would hurt me. Sometimes that explanation makes sense, but other times it feel like a line of bull. Have other unfaithful spouses felt stuck in their affairs?
Feeling stuck in affair
Can unfaithful spouses feel a sense of being stuck in their affairs? My husband tells me that the reason his affair lasted so long was that he didn’t know how to get out of it--that he knew I'd divorce him if I found out. (My first marriage ended in divorce because of an exit affair.) He says he worked hard at just trying to “manage it” because he DID recognize what he had to lose. That if he just kept his affair partner--who happened to be my friend--happy then he knew she wouldn’t expose the affair and cause me pain. He says during the "no contact" times throughout their affair, he had a sense of relief when she’d reach out because then he didn’t have the constant worry of the secret being exposed. When he finally told me about the affair, he said it was because he could no longer live the life he was living, even though he knew how much the affair would hurt me. Sometimes that explanation makes sense, but other times it feel like a line of bull. Have other unfaithful spouses felt stuck in their affairs?