Thanks, Samuel. Another great blog. Your are always filled with sincerity, understanding, empathy, and compassion. I really appreciate everything you do.
I’m pretty sure my wife is the poster child for denial because we have been pretending normal for so long and no matter what I do there is never any momentum in recovery. If she were to watch this video I suspect she would say she’s not in denial because she has said the affair was her fault and she “owns” it. The problem is those are just words. She has “done” very little to take responsibility or make any kind of amends. If a conversation about her infidelity or our relationship goes on long enough it inevitably winds up with some form of blame shifting on her part. I feel that this is one of the major roadblocks preventing our reconnection and reconciliation. As a BS with your life and your family hanging in the balance, it’s extremely frustrating to be so sure that you’re the one who sees things clearly, but be gaslighted to the point where you question if you’re actually the one in denial.
As a BS, how can I be sure that I’m not the one in denial?
What are some other halllmarks of denial that could be recognized by an unfaithful who is in denial and, by definition, cannot see the truth that everyone else sees?
Thanks, Samuel. Another
Thanks, Samuel. Another great blog. Your are always filled with sincerity, understanding, empathy, and compassion. I really appreciate everything you do.
I’m pretty sure my wife is the poster child for denial because we have been pretending normal for so long and no matter what I do there is never any momentum in recovery. If she were to watch this video I suspect she would say she’s not in denial because she has said the affair was her fault and she “owns” it. The problem is those are just words. She has “done” very little to take responsibility or make any kind of amends. If a conversation about her infidelity or our relationship goes on long enough it inevitably winds up with some form of blame shifting on her part. I feel that this is one of the major roadblocks preventing our reconnection and reconciliation. As a BS with your life and your family hanging in the balance, it’s extremely frustrating to be so sure that you’re the one who sees things clearly, but be gaslighted to the point where you question if you’re actually the one in denial.
As a BS, how can I be sure that I’m not the one in denial?
What are some other halllmarks of denial that could be recognized by an unfaithful who is in denial and, by definition, cannot see the truth that everyone else sees?