Frequently Asked Question About Harboring Hope

If you and I were talking you might have some questions about whether Harboring Hope would work for you. Since we’re not sitting face to face, let me answer a few commonly asked questions…

Q. “What if I’m divorced, could I still benefit from the Harboring Hope Course?”

A. Absolutely! Many people taking the Harboring Hope Course have lost their marriages. A divorce in no way resolves the dilemma created by a betrayal. This course promotes healing and helps prepare you for a new life

Q. I already have an individual therapist, why would I want to do your course?

A. The Harboring Hope course supplements normal therapy. It is not therapy, it’s education. But it has several features that really help the recovery process. Having others working the same program helps facilitate understanding, honesty, caring, respect, and support. Many find that using this process is like putting the recovery process on steroids. It will help you move quickly and efficiently through the initial stages of your recovery process.

Q. “What if I have to miss a week?”

A. One advantage of Harboring Hope is the flexibility it affords. All you need is access to a telephone to join your scheduled group, but if you can’t make it at that time, then with the group’s permission that session could be recorded to you could listen to it later, and/or you would be given time in the next group session to present your homework. You’ll find your group to be very supportive and my experience has been they will do whatever is necessary to help you get what you need.

Q. “How can a program conducted entirely online be so effective?”

A. To me, that is one of the most amazing discoveries of this process. Logically ,it would seem that it wouldn’t work as well as being face to face with others, but research shows it actually works as well or better. I’m not sure I can tell you exactly why, but I have a theory. 90% of communication is visual. We pick up all kinds of messages from body language, but where there are no visuals, we naturally begin to fill in the missing pieces. We imagine how others look, what their meanings and intents are. But with an online course, we get to fill in the blanks in the way that works best for us. With your Harboring Hope group, you never see what the other people look like, you never even know their last names, for that reason you get to just fill in the blanks as to who they are. And as humans, we tend to imagine them to be the way we need them to be in order for us to get the greatest benefit. It naturally takes away the judgments we might unconsciously make of others and allows us to hear their hearts more clearly thereby helping us to better understand our own situation.

Q. “Why not just get a therapist to take me through this process?”

A. That’s a great idea. As a professional marriage and family therapist, I know it can be very helpful. My only suggestion would be to get a therapist who specializes in working with infidelity. However, a good therapist, at $100 an hour for 12 sessions might cost you $1,200 and if you’re not quite able to afford those rates, then Harboring Hope is a great first step.

Q. “What if this format doesn’t work for me?”

A. That would be rare, but certainly possible. So if it didn’t work, that’s why we offer an ironclad guarantee (see guarantee above). We want your healing far more than your money. If all we wanted was money, there would be far easier ways to set this system up, but that’s not our goal. So, if it doesn’t work, then just let us know. You’ve already had to take enough risk getting to this point, we’ll take the risk for whether or not this works. That being said, I would ask that you not judge the product before you complete the course. You can’t possibly know whether or not it will work by your initial judgments. There is a proven process, but you have to be willing to go through the process in order for it to work.

Q. “Why does it cost so much?”

A. I guess that’s a matter of opinion. Most of my friends keep asking why is it so inexpensive? There is nothing else like this on the market. You are getting hours of video which allow you to witness Leslie and John working with others who are just like you. You are getting a care group which meets weekly to keep you on track and to assure you are moving in the right direction. You are getting access to Leslie and John via their weekly question and answer calls and you’ll receive Harboring Hope resources. While I realize a book would be less expensive, it’s not the same as a book and if you were to spend the same amount of time in group therapy and if you were to purchase all of the support resources then it would cost over $1,200 dollars. So even though it’s more expensive than a book, what you’re getting is far more economical than the alternative.


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