Success Stories
My story began as a frightened child, evolved into a suicidal man, and continues by the grace of God and through the forgiveness of my wife. I was living a double life and could see no way out,… read more
Discovering my husband’s betrayal literally paralyzed me. I couldn’t even think properly, much less make any decisions about what to do next. So I fled. I couldn’t stand the thought of looking at him… read more
My world was shattered when I discovered my wife’s infidelities on Easter Sunday 2011. I didn’t know which way was up or who I was married to. Thankfully, Ana was fully transparent and fully… read more
What began as flirting led to more time and time again. Every time I swore it wouldn’t happen again and I resolved to get better all on my own. Well, that route didn’t work out for me, but luckily we… read more
My wife and I had grown callous to one another long before her infidelity. I took a chance and chose to work on the marriage, if for no other reason than to just say I had done my best. I’m so… read more
I was bored and not content in my marriage. With my irrational mind, it was impossible for my husband to understand my frustrations, so I just stuffed them. I had three affairs, each one chipping… read more
I had found the man every parent dreams of for their child: respectful, kind, raised in a good home. I was completely blindsided by his sexual addiction. Thankfully we both committed to do the… read more
My life was characterized by when and where I would act out next and how I could continue to hide my secret life from my family. Through counseling, Affair Recovery, and a wife whose love I don’t… read more
After 10 years, my marriage had turned into a vicious cycle of blame. My husband led me to believe I was a truly terrible person by always blaming me, and because of this I became resentful and… read more
Testimonials
"I was hesitant to attend because I didn't believe our issue needed intense counseling. However, I discovered my partner was dealing with a lot of trauma from my missteps. It was essential to hear and deal with this."
- Virtual | EMSW Participant
"I had zero idea/expectations and I did have some hesitancy, but I am very glad we came. Before EMS, I was constantly consumed by how to “fix this” but now I am more at peace with that God is in control and He knows and all I can control is what I do and however the outcome, I AM WORTHY and my life matters. I am not defined by what I have done and my story isn’t over."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I had a lot of anxiety before coming to EMS. We had already tried so many things to heal, and some of those things ended up being more harmful than helpful. But EMS is exactly what we needed. I now feel optimistic and hopeful that my wife and I can move beyond the affair and rebuild a new, amazing marriage."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"It was wonderful. I felt loved, accepted, and cared for. We weren’t sure about coming, [as] we are not religious. We felt very accepted. We felt very stuck [before] and this weekend gave us so much hope for the future."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"When I chose EMS, I wanted some ways to figure out a way to “forgive” my unfaithful spouse. I was not sure if we had marriage left or if we were just pretending. After EMS we are going back with the hope that we had a solid chance at redeeming our love and find a Marriage 2.0."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"This week’s lesson was about how to find meaning in our suffering. This journey through the pain of infidelity has resulted in a healthier perspective of my persevering through the trials of my life. God has used this experience to show me how I could be in the present moment even with all its imperfection."
- R. North Carolina | HH Participant
"I felt stressed and anxious going into the first group meeting. Our Group Leader was awesome. In the initial minutes of the meeting, he had me laughing and relaxed.
I look forward to this week's assignment and the next group meeting. I am so glad to be taking this course."
I look forward to this week's assignment and the next group meeting. I am so glad to be taking this course."
- R, Canada | EMSO Participant
"This week was insightful for me as it uncovered some historical issues that haunt me every day, except I failed to acknowledge it before this week."
- Anonymous | EMSO Participant
"Just days before EMS Weekend, I asked my [betrayed] wife to get a refund. Now, [Sunday] I wish it was Friday again, and I had this same weekend to relive. As painful as some of it is, the experience is something I never would have wanted to miss. "
- EMSW Participant
"I thought it was a website that SOLD people on an expensive seminar to line the pockets of the creators. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I am very thankful that I took the leap of faith to come."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"There's a best version of you that cannot change the past but can forge a new path forward, and do it with like minded peers that can help you stay on track. I would recommend this course for any wayward spouses that are in despair, feel hopeless or lost, for anyone who knows they are a good person but made some poor decisions."
- C., Florida | HFH Participant
"If you want or need genuine support in your healing and transformation from anguish/despair to hope/forgiveness, EMS Weekend can be the gift and blessing you seek. I came here nervous, scared, skeptical, numb, depressed, and empty. I left on Sunday a different person, a better person. This was not easy; nothing meaningful is. There were low times for each person here. My tears covered my face daily. I had to be crushed even more, in ways I didn’t expect, before I could then rise to levels of hope, anticipation, gratitude, and joy - all before I left. Our love and redemption story is far from over, we have more work to do, but EMS Weekend is filled with skilled and heart-filled professionals who lead us well on a pathway that works. Find hope and new life and a new relationship/marriage roadmap at EMS Weekend. It can be a spiritual or personal transformation."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I completed EMS Online with my wife (thank God we're still married). I'm the unfaithful partner. We also finished the Bootcamp in the weeks leading up to EMS Online, which was amazing and highly recommended.
There is hope. Please push through the pain and uncomfortable discovery. Ask God for help. And follow the curriculum's guidance. You can heal."
There is hope. Please push through the pain and uncomfortable discovery. Ask God for help. And follow the curriculum's guidance. You can heal."
- Anonymous | EMSO Participant
"I came into the EMS Weekend feeling that my marriage was too broken. Both me and my spouse had been unfaithful and I was beginning to lose hope in a future together. After this weekend, I have hope to be the person I want to be and find happiness and peace even in hard circumstances. EMS gave us the tools and motivation not to repair our marriage, but to allow God to make us new."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"The Week 6 curriculum is very emotional. It's intense but a major breakthrough in my recovery. Hearing my husband's assignment was like removing every thorn in my heart."
- S. California | EMSO Participant
"This lesson was VERY impactful, I cannot tell you how many things were things I needed to read, needed to know, needed to understand. I feel that God allowed me to be in this program for many reasons, but this lesson is one of the biggest ones! Great and impactful material! As always my Group Leader is amazing and a TRUE blessing from God!"
- V, Georgia | HH Participant
"I was searching for a way out of my affair. I was having an affair with the
one father in a group of stay at home moms. It lasted eight months. It was
sexual and emotional. I thought I was supposed to leave my husband and two
children. I knew nothing good would come out of this selfish act. My
husband discovered pictures/videos of my affair partner-revealing to him an
emotional and sexting affair, but not the full truth. I made a huge mistake
of continuing to speak to my affair partner after discovery. And fell back
into patterns that were inexcusable. After several failed attempts and
opportunities to exit the affair, I knew I could not do it on my own. After
literally searching google for "living in limbo with affair partner," I
came across an article from Affairrecovery.com. I signed up for Hope for
Healing within the week. I was so hopeful for a return to my family. I had
no idea the amount I would learn about myself and my behaviors and thoughts
that lead me to my affair. The most important thing I learned in the Hope
for Healing course was how to prevent further false thinking and behaviors
that could lead to infidelity. I will admit I was deeply terrified of full
disclosure to my husband (he didn't know anything past the first
disclosure, and believed I had stopped seeing the affair partner). Trust in
the process and the support of the group lead my to know God's love and
grace in a way I never understood before. I have been without hope. This
course and website are so valuable to me through the hope that it has
brought me and to my family."
one father in a group of stay at home moms. It lasted eight months. It was
sexual and emotional. I thought I was supposed to leave my husband and two
children. I knew nothing good would come out of this selfish act. My
husband discovered pictures/videos of my affair partner-revealing to him an
emotional and sexting affair, but not the full truth. I made a huge mistake
of continuing to speak to my affair partner after discovery. And fell back
into patterns that were inexcusable. After several failed attempts and
opportunities to exit the affair, I knew I could not do it on my own. After
literally searching google for "living in limbo with affair partner," I
came across an article from Affairrecovery.com. I signed up for Hope for
Healing within the week. I was so hopeful for a return to my family. I had
no idea the amount I would learn about myself and my behaviors and thoughts
that lead me to my affair. The most important thing I learned in the Hope
for Healing course was how to prevent further false thinking and behaviors
that could lead to infidelity. I will admit I was deeply terrified of full
disclosure to my husband (he didn't know anything past the first
disclosure, and believed I had stopped seeing the affair partner). Trust in
the process and the support of the group lead my to know God's love and
grace in a way I never understood before. I have been without hope. This
course and website are so valuable to me through the hope that it has
brought me and to my family."
- A. Europe | HFH Participant
"EMS shifted my devastation into hope. What I thought was completely hopeless, I learned is in fact just the beginning of a very life giving story."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I am sad to see this class end. My leader and mentor were a wealth of encouragement, insight and strength. The material gave me the guidance I needed to take a deeper look at myself and how I got so derailed in life. The group gave me the uplifting I needed when I didn't feel I could keep going. This is a lifelong journey. I am grateful for these tools to continue being successful."
- L, New York | HFH Participant
"Our leader's ability to love and understand everyone right where they are is such a gift allowing the process to take place, giving way for the Spirit to bring breakthrough. So grateful.
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- Anonymous | EMSO Participant
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