Success Stories
My story began as a frightened child, evolved into a suicidal man, and continues by the grace of God and through the forgiveness of my wife. I was living a double life and could see no way out,… read more
Discovering my husband’s betrayal literally paralyzed me. I couldn’t even think properly, much less make any decisions about what to do next. So I fled. I couldn’t stand the thought of looking at him… read more
My world was shattered when I discovered my wife’s infidelities on Easter Sunday 2011. I didn’t know which way was up or who I was married to. Thankfully, Ana was fully transparent and fully… read more
What began as flirting led to more time and time again. Every time I swore it wouldn’t happen again and I resolved to get better all on my own. Well, that route didn’t work out for me, but luckily we… read more
My wife and I had grown callous to one another long before her infidelity. I took a chance and chose to work on the marriage, if for no other reason than to just say I had done my best. I’m so… read more
I was bored and not content in my marriage. With my irrational mind, it was impossible for my husband to understand my frustrations, so I just stuffed them. I had three affairs, each one chipping… read more
I had found the man every parent dreams of for their child: respectful, kind, raised in a good home. I was completely blindsided by his sexual addiction. Thankfully we both committed to do the… read more
My life was characterized by when and where I would act out next and how I could continue to hide my secret life from my family. Through counseling, Affair Recovery, and a wife whose love I don’t… read more
After 10 years, my marriage had turned into a vicious cycle of blame. My husband led me to believe I was a truly terrible person by always blaming me, and because of this I became resentful and… read more
Testimonials
"I'm so grateful for all that you offer at AR. Harboring Hope was extremely helpful and the material was great. Meaning the videos and the literature - can't thank you enough!"
- Anonymous | HH Participant
"I was unfaithful to my girlfriend (now wife). Long story short, I only told my girlfriend a portion of the story behind my infidelity and nearly twenty years later I learned that I never gave my wife what she needed to heal because I did not make her fully aware of what she was forgiving me for. It eventually led me to this wonderful course that enabled me to link up with other men going through similar things who have been great and helped with opening my eyes to things I could improve on as a man. I would like to thank the staff and sponsors who allowed me to use a scholarship to participate in this course. Without it, I likely would not have been able to attend. But I definitely plan to make the most of it by taking what I learned and implying it to my lifelong journey. I would like to thank my family, for never giving up on me though I know I made it very difficult. Thank my group for their openness, honesty, and for not judging me. I would like to thank Rick Reynolds and the staff for putting together an amazing curriculum to assist people like me who have struggled and continue to struggle with this prevalent issue."
- N., Virginia | HFH Participant
"Prior to this, we were doing couples therapy. To be honest I was very skeptical about a program like this, but really found EMS to be way more helpful and beneficial. It covers so many different topics that were not covered in therapy, and I would highly recommend this program to any could struggling with infidelity.
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- Anonymous | EMSO Participant
"I had a lot of anxiety before coming to EMS. We had already tried so many things to heal, and some of those things ended up being more harmful than helpful. But EMS is exactly what we needed. I now feel optimistic and hopeful that my wife and I can move beyond the affair and rebuild a new, amazing marriage."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"When I chose EMS, I wanted some ways to figure out a way to “forgive” my unfaithful spouse. I was not sure if we had marriage left or if we were just pretending. After EMS we are going back with the hope that we had a solid chance at redeeming our love and find a Marriage 2.0."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I knew EMS was not going to be a magic pill that would immediately fix our marriage, but it has proven to give me hope, along with post-EMS support and tools we can use when we leave. I believe this experience and tools give us the best chance we have for our marriage to thrive."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"AR has been a lifesaver over the past 1.5 years. We found AR soon after d-day and went through the bootcamp, then took HFH and HH at the same time. I was nervous that we were “too far” for EMS but trusting because I’d had such good experiences with AR. The overall environment, the small group/community, the mentor couple, and several of the sections spoke strongly to me – particularly on forgiveness and preventing relapse. I think this “unstuck” the forgiveness that was lodged and helped me realize how many things I’ve already accepted without realizing it. It was the right next step in my and our healing journeys."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I expected to dig into our specific affair. I learned that these were our details. A how and why approach to affair recovery was delivered and was so dang good! The camaraderie and chemistry of the small group was outstanding. I am very hopeful for our marriage and for our future. Quite literally you are life savers, thank you for this gift of service, we needed your help!"
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"The opportunity this group has given me is such a ray of light during the most challenging time in my life. Thank you AR!"
- B.E., TX | HH Participant
"We had a wonderful experience with EMS! I honestly had no idea what to prepare for or expect. This weekend was such a blessing to our healing journey. I would recommend this weekend to any couple in the fight of their life! I have so much hope and a positive outlook for our future. The atmosphere was so inviting and welcoming for both spouses. Such a wonderful community and experience. Thank you!!"
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I came here thinking, “Why am I here? This won't help,” but now I have hope. Hope was being clouded by fear, and now those clouds are fading."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"I was very apprehensive about an online recovery course, but the facilitator and the other couples gave us the courage to stand in the gap and look at situations through each others' eyes.We have hope for a future together! "
- S. Texas | EMSO Participant
"Beyond EMS Aftercare: My Group Leader went above & beyond. Extremely helpful and I appreciated her input. I asked if I could stay on the call for a few minutes after group to chat & she did. That meant a LOT to me! She helped give some tips & offered to meet again, so for that I'm grateful. She's a great leader!!"
- B, Iowa | EMSW Participant
"Every week I am amazed that the richness of the content and conversation could be better than the prior week. However, how wrong I continue to be as each week is stronger and the content is richer."
- Anonymous | HFH Participant
"This week for me, as the betrayed spouse, was as if someone came and removed 10lbs of bricks off of my back. Just know that my spouse is beginning to understand what this has been like for me, is a gift I'm so thankful for."
- E.A., MD | EMSO Participant
"Before I came to EMS I was nervous that I would be shamed or condemned by others throughout the weekend, but I was only met with love and acceptance. This weekend has jump-started our marriage and I feel true hope for the first time in a LONG time. I’m very grateful."
- Anonymous | EMSW Participant
"The EMSO was a life saver! Just to know I wasn't alone and my feelings and emotions were "normal" was so helpful. I don't think my marriage has a chance without this course. I would recommend this course for anyone facing infidelity! It's a life like and a ray of hope."
- T. California | EMSO Participant
"I don't know how I would've gotten through the last three months without the ladies and mediator in Harboring Hope. The fact that we all knew each other from EMS weekend was the best part. I would highly recommend this for the ladies who meet at EMS. There's a connection during small group calls like no other and we are so comfortable to just dig right in to the conversation."
- L. Texas | HH Participant
"I think it’s a really effective program ....... and would like to do it again when my life's in a little different place..... I would recommend it to anyone and I have:)"
- Anonymous | HH Participant
"Hearing the group leader's story makes you feel even more comfortable."
- J.C., TX | EMSO Participant
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