hi Teri. it's a tough, multi level question. but i do think the best i can answer that with is that as you're able to work through layers of forgivness, it will help you see him differently. now having said that, 40 years is a long time. it's completely understandable you'd feel that way and have a tough time reconciling those two. so go easy on yourself and give yourself lots of time. grief work and trauma work is going to be key for you. i hope you're getting some help like EMDR or ETT ???
tough question...
hi Teri. it's a tough, multi level question. but i do think the best i can answer that with is that as you're able to work through layers of forgivness, it will help you see him differently. now having said that, 40 years is a long time. it's completely understandable you'd feel that way and have a tough time reconciling those two. so go easy on yourself and give yourself lots of time. grief work and trauma work is going to be key for you. i hope you're getting some help like EMDR or ETT ???