the reality is, he's probabaly dealing with shame or frustration. shame due to what he did and his embarrassment of it and now feeling condemned and uncomfortable talking about it. frustration as MAYBE he has some things he's frustrated about or even angry about but doesn't want to talk about them or won't talk about them out of fear etc. typically it could be one or two of those things. most likely you'll need an objective, third party mediator that will help you have discussions that are safe and blame free and can help you both find a resolution. he may not think you want to talk about that stuff as well and may think it's better to just not talk about it all.
he doesn't make that connection...
the reality is, he's probabaly dealing with shame or frustration. shame due to what he did and his embarrassment of it and now feeling condemned and uncomfortable talking about it. frustration as MAYBE he has some things he's frustrated about or even angry about but doesn't want to talk about them or won't talk about them out of fear etc. typically it could be one or two of those things. most likely you'll need an objective, third party mediator that will help you have discussions that are safe and blame free and can help you both find a resolution. he may not think you want to talk about that stuff as well and may think it's better to just not talk about it all.