I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 15 years and we had a decent relationship wouldn’t say the best but I’m realistic about fantasy relationships . Nevertheless I’ve been loyal to him. Our breakup happened four years ago and he moved out it was due to talks of him having an affair and talks of me having an emotional friendship with someone . Difference is I did not sleep with anyone new . He moved out and wanted to stay connect as so did I . He swore to me he wasn’t seeing anyone and I dated him again and things were great . We needed this time to find ourselves as we drifted and sex was new again and it was on the road to recovery for me at least . In November I found out he still was seeing the woman for 4 years and seeing me . All lies . She confronted me when he tried breaking it off and told me everything , I was crushed . However timing was he moved back in with me and then I found out . He cried and wanted to stay with me and make things work with us . He is living with me and claims it’s over with her . My trust and safe place is destroyed . We haven’t has sex in 7 mos and we are not married . No kids together . He wants me to forgive and forget and not talk about it . I can’t heal if I don’t so I look to find comfort in people who have gone through this and I’m hurt
Not married but still hurts
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 15 years and we had a decent relationship wouldn’t say the best but I’m realistic about fantasy relationships . Nevertheless I’ve been loyal to him. Our breakup happened four years ago and he moved out it was due to talks of him having an affair and talks of me having an emotional friendship with someone . Difference is I did not sleep with anyone new . He moved out and wanted to stay connect as so did I . He swore to me he wasn’t seeing anyone and I dated him again and things were great . We needed this time to find ourselves as we drifted and sex was new again and it was on the road to recovery for me at least . In November I found out he still was seeing the woman for 4 years and seeing me . All lies . She confronted me when he tried breaking it off and told me everything , I was crushed . However timing was he moved back in with me and then I found out . He cried and wanted to stay with me and make things work with us . He is living with me and claims it’s over with her . My trust and safe place is destroyed . We haven’t has sex in 7 mos and we are not married . No kids together . He wants me to forgive and forget and not talk about it . I can’t heal if I don’t so I look to find comfort in people who have gone through this and I’m hurt