My husband of 28 years was recently working for a few months in a different continent. When he came home, he asked if he could invite this lady he met while over there to meet me, and have dinner. Upon meeting this person, I realized that it was not a platonic friendship she sought, and my husband either stupidly or naively thought that he could maintain a platonic friendship with her. I discovered emails between them which had double meanings, to which my husband responded "I know that I would never have a sexual relationship with her, so I felt comfortable communicating in that fashion with her." He sent an email to discontinue communication.He explained that he felt we were not getting on, and when she showed interest in him and invited him to dinner, he felt flattered, and enjoyed her company. He told me that he had never done anything like this in all our years together.When I kept asking him for the "why", he told me that he felt good about it, and although his feelings weren't of the same intensity as he felt for me more than 30 years ago. I'm not convinced about his explanation for the emails to her, after he realized that that woman and I could never be friends, which was what he was hoping for! Then I asked him more questions, and he told me that he was with prostitutes on two occasions while he was by himself for a couple of months in another country. Needless to say, I'm totally shell-shocked. He insisted that that happened 24 years ago and they were just "prostitutes". I am working through with Bootcamp, a marriage therapist, a support group and some good friends. I need all the help I can get. He wants to stay married. I was totally blind-sided and I had trusted him implicitly in our 32 years together. I read your article about how the betrayer often doesn't know the "why". I want to know the why to help me figure out what I can do moving forward. He can't give that to me. Is this too much to ask for?
Why Did My Spouse Cheat
My husband of 28 years was recently working for a few months in a different continent. When he came home, he asked if he could invite this lady he met while over there to meet me, and have dinner. Upon meeting this person, I realized that it was not a platonic friendship she sought, and my husband either stupidly or naively thought that he could maintain a platonic friendship with her. I discovered emails between them which had double meanings, to which my husband responded "I know that I would never have a sexual relationship with her, so I felt comfortable communicating in that fashion with her." He sent an email to discontinue communication.He explained that he felt we were not getting on, and when she showed interest in him and invited him to dinner, he felt flattered, and enjoyed her company. He told me that he had never done anything like this in all our years together.When I kept asking him for the "why", he told me that he felt good about it, and although his feelings weren't of the same intensity as he felt for me more than 30 years ago. I'm not convinced about his explanation for the emails to her, after he realized that that woman and I could never be friends, which was what he was hoping for! Then I asked him more questions, and he told me that he was with prostitutes on two occasions while he was by himself for a couple of months in another country. Needless to say, I'm totally shell-shocked. He insisted that that happened 24 years ago and they were just "prostitutes". I am working through with Bootcamp, a marriage therapist, a support group and some good friends. I need all the help I can get. He wants to stay married. I was totally blind-sided and I had trusted him implicitly in our 32 years together. I read your article about how the betrayer often doesn't know the "why". I want to know the why to help me figure out what I can do moving forward. He can't give that to me. Is this too much to ask for?