I understand completely. My husband of 18 years has had two emotional affairs plus looking for affairs on Ashley Madison and Craigslist and I just recently found out about inappropriate texts with a coworker from years ago. It’s brought everything back up. I’m in the same boat as I feel he truly is remorseful for hurting me and loves me and only me but continues to hurt me with his behavior. I know I haven’t responded well always and ignored problems before but I’m not any longer. I want to talk to him about specific boundaries and situations and what to do or consequences. It hurts so badly as I’ve loved him unconditionally time and time again and he’s repeatedly chosen to act in hurtful ways. This last one was particularly hurtful as it was pointless joking gone too far. I’m forgiving him and we’re working on our marriage but I don’t know how much more I can take.
I completely understand
I understand completely. My husband of 18 years has had two emotional affairs plus looking for affairs on Ashley Madison and Craigslist and I just recently found out about inappropriate texts with a coworker from years ago. It’s brought everything back up. I’m in the same boat as I feel he truly is remorseful for hurting me and loves me and only me but continues to hurt me with his behavior. I know I haven’t responded well always and ignored problems before but I’m not any longer. I want to talk to him about specific boundaries and situations and what to do or consequences. It hurts so badly as I’ve loved him unconditionally time and time again and he’s repeatedly chosen to act in hurtful ways. This last one was particularly hurtful as it was pointless joking gone too far. I’m forgiving him and we’re working on our marriage but I don’t know how much more I can take.