I agree; my heart sank when I saw 18 months. We are at 21 months, and although things are better, I am still hurting and angry. My husband did break it off promptly after discovery (although I had to put up with the knowledge he was still exposed to her as she did not quit until 12 years ago). He has told me much, although it took about a year for him to come completely clean, but I still don’t know if he is feeling me the whole truth or just sticking to his story. We had been together for almost 30 years, married for 27, and have 3 kids together. We had been through some trauma together due to our sons’ emerging mental illness when the affair began, but this only increased my bewilderment - we had worked so well together as a team. Why would he do this? I am wondering if I will ever get over it, and the timeline stating I should have been over it 3 months ago makes my despair increase. Yes there have been a day or two recently when I haven’t suffered intrusive thought and anxiety, but these are still a marked minority.
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I agree; my heart sank when I saw 18 months. We are at 21 months, and although things are better, I am still hurting and angry. My husband did break it off promptly after discovery (although I had to put up with the knowledge he was still exposed to her as she did not quit until 12 years ago). He has told me much, although it took about a year for him to come completely clean, but I still don’t know if he is feeling me the whole truth or just sticking to his story. We had been together for almost 30 years, married for 27, and have 3 kids together. We had been through some trauma together due to our sons’ emerging mental illness when the affair began, but this only increased my bewilderment - we had worked so well together as a team. Why would he do this? I am wondering if I will ever get over it, and the timeline stating I should have been over it 3 months ago makes my despair increase. Yes there have been a day or two recently when I haven’t suffered intrusive thought and anxiety, but these are still a marked minority.