I was wanting to get some thoughts and insights on this timeline when the cheating was never physical. Communication on my part was one of the biggest factors. She seemed off and distant and our physical intimacy was lacking. I just assumed she wasn't happy and wasn't being pleased. An old woman I had talked to years ago messaged me to tell me happy holidays. I replied back and at first it was just normal chat. Then the past was brought up and I had asked for naked pictures. They were never sent. Two days later she picked up my I-pad and the messages popped up. Needless to say, she was mad and hurt. We had just had a special an intimate night the night before she found these messages. I had full intentions on telling the other woman that I made a huge mistake asking that she please don't message me again I am in love and happy. When I tried to explain that to my fiancé she didn't believe and said why should I believe anything you say. She said it was over and that she needed time to heal and process when I asked her to forgive me. I have been seeing a therapist since it happened working on seeking validation or fulfillment from an outside relationship. It was never that I wasn't happy or wanted anyone else it was just not feeling that I was loved or that I was enough. It's been six months since the incident happened. She first told me to move out but agreed after me asking to let me stay in sleep in the spare bedroom. Were still not together but have recently gone out and had some dinners which is the first that's happened since the incident. We still communicate on a daily basis, hang out and spend time together in the living room watching tv. When I tell her I love her sometimes she seems like she believes then other times says I still have my doubts. Most days when she talks about the future says we need to do this or we will need to do that. So, I guess my question is does this seem to be hitting this timeline, or behind it or ahead of it.
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I was wanting to get some thoughts and insights on this timeline when the cheating was never physical. Communication on my part was one of the biggest factors. She seemed off and distant and our physical intimacy was lacking. I just assumed she wasn't happy and wasn't being pleased. An old woman I had talked to years ago messaged me to tell me happy holidays. I replied back and at first it was just normal chat. Then the past was brought up and I had asked for naked pictures. They were never sent. Two days later she picked up my I-pad and the messages popped up. Needless to say, she was mad and hurt. We had just had a special an intimate night the night before she found these messages. I had full intentions on telling the other woman that I made a huge mistake asking that she please don't message me again I am in love and happy. When I tried to explain that to my fiancé she didn't believe and said why should I believe anything you say. She said it was over and that she needed time to heal and process when I asked her to forgive me. I have been seeing a therapist since it happened working on seeking validation or fulfillment from an outside relationship. It was never that I wasn't happy or wanted anyone else it was just not feeling that I was loved or that I was enough. It's been six months since the incident happened. She first told me to move out but agreed after me asking to let me stay in sleep in the spare bedroom. Were still not together but have recently gone out and had some dinners which is the first that's happened since the incident. We still communicate on a daily basis, hang out and spend time together in the living room watching tv. When I tell her I love her sometimes she seems like she believes then other times says I still have my doubts. Most days when she talks about the future says we need to do this or we will need to do that. So, I guess my question is does this seem to be hitting this timeline, or behind it or ahead of it.