Three years ago, my husband took a job that required him to work 8 hours away from home. Within five months I found out that he and his secretary were spending time together after work. He took her to supper and always paid for her meal. (She was also working away from home and her husband.) When I found out about their time together, I asked him to stop. I told him two things: (1) That his time with his secretary after hours bothered me, and (2) That they were both putting themselves in a situation that could be “questioned” by others. He told me he understood and that he would stop spending time with her after hours. Instead of stopping, his time with her after work continued and he started lying to me about it. He’s consistently told me that there was nothing “physical” about their friendship. However, since he knew how I felt about their time together yet continued to see her and lie to me about it, I’m having a hard time believing him. He tells me I’m overreacting and (basically) says I need to get over it. Does his behavior fall into the category of infidelity?
Is it infidelity?
Three years ago, my husband took a job that required him to work 8 hours away from home. Within five months I found out that he and his secretary were spending time together after work. He took her to supper and always paid for her meal. (She was also working away from home and her husband.) When I found out about their time together, I asked him to stop. I told him two things: (1) That his time with his secretary after hours bothered me, and (2) That they were both putting themselves in a situation that could be “questioned” by others. He told me he understood and that he would stop spending time with her after hours. Instead of stopping, his time with her after work continued and he started lying to me about it. He’s consistently told me that there was nothing “physical” about their friendship. However, since he knew how I felt about their time together yet continued to see her and lie to me about it, I’m having a hard time believing him. He tells me I’m overreacting and (basically) says I need to get over it. Does his behavior fall into the category of infidelity?