Not asking for forgiveness is just one more thing to forgive. Forgiveness is bearing the cost of another's wrongdoing, choosing to decide they are released from the debt they owe for the wrong they have done. If they are forgiven, it is because you have chosen to release your requirement for a sense of justice. If you have any requirements, any stipulations to the terms of your forgiveness, then it isn't forgiveness.
I know how hard it is to forgive, I'm a betrayed wife here. It takes time. It's very costly. It's so hard. And the. The pain rears its ugly hard and you have to forgive the same thing again, or a new layer is exposed and you have to forgive the same thing from a different angle.
But forgiveness has to come from you, free of charge. Most people who wound you will not ask for forgiveness, let alone apologize. Yet forgive we must. Even if you aren't a Christian, as Christians are commanded to forgive, forgiveness is still a crucial part to personal healing, a way to release and heal and be free from the burden of carrying the collections notice for a debt that will never be paid, because their is no way to undo a wrongdoing. It will always have been done. There are ways to rebuild trust, reconcile, heal, etc. But there are no take backs.
Not asking for forgiveness is
Not asking for forgiveness is just one more thing to forgive. Forgiveness is bearing the cost of another's wrongdoing, choosing to decide they are released from the debt they owe for the wrong they have done. If they are forgiven, it is because you have chosen to release your requirement for a sense of justice. If you have any requirements, any stipulations to the terms of your forgiveness, then it isn't forgiveness.
I know how hard it is to forgive, I'm a betrayed wife here. It takes time. It's very costly. It's so hard. And the. The pain rears its ugly hard and you have to forgive the same thing again, or a new layer is exposed and you have to forgive the same thing from a different angle.
But forgiveness has to come from you, free of charge. Most people who wound you will not ask for forgiveness, let alone apologize. Yet forgive we must. Even if you aren't a Christian, as Christians are commanded to forgive, forgiveness is still a crucial part to personal healing, a way to release and heal and be free from the burden of carrying the collections notice for a debt that will never be paid, because their is no way to undo a wrongdoing. It will always have been done. There are ways to rebuild trust, reconcile, heal, etc. But there are no take backs.