What about abuse

This was very interesting and did help me understand where my cheating husband is in the recovery process, but I know he is only attending anger management classes for me, not himself. He still refuses to talk to me about his second EA with the same coworker. He talks the talk, says he will do WIT but does not show it with his actions. He is verbally abusive and physically intimidating when I press for affair details. What do you suggest I do? I can't go through this pain again if there is a relapse.