It was exactly 5 years ago this month that I had my day of discovery of my husbands affair. I thank God daily that my husband was willing to own up to the affair and work to restore our marriage. The first several months I was full of questions which he answered as best as he could. We were in couples therapy and he was in individual therapy. And he was willing to do that which was HUGE! He is a flirt and gregarious which never amounted to anything until this one particular woman came into the picture. My h had a lot to learn about boundaries and how they could be misinterpreted. There was a relapses with another woman 2 years later which I found out about immediately. This time he got defensive about the emails but when he was shown how his words could be misinterpreted, I think he finally got it. Like I said it has been five years from discovery and we are in a good place. At times I think it was only a horrible nightmare and not reality. Couples can recover if both parties are up to confessing and forgiving and learning from the experience.
So true and so thankful
It was exactly 5 years ago this month that I had my day of discovery of my husbands affair. I thank God daily that my husband was willing to own up to the affair and work to restore our marriage. The first several months I was full of questions which he answered as best as he could. We were in couples therapy and he was in individual therapy. And he was willing to do that which was HUGE! He is a flirt and gregarious which never amounted to anything until this one particular woman came into the picture. My h had a lot to learn about boundaries and how they could be misinterpreted. There was a relapses with another woman 2 years later which I found out about immediately. This time he got defensive about the emails but when he was shown how his words could be misinterpreted, I think he finally got it. Like I said it has been five years from discovery and we are in a good place. At times I think it was only a horrible nightmare and not reality. Couples can recover if both parties are up to confessing and forgiving and learning from the experience.