She has NO obligation to make it work with someone who deceived her and broke the marriage vows. And you cannot use the kids to blackmail her either. This is a firm of Coercive Control and a tactic used by Narcissists. She deserves her Peace without you. I hope she takes the kids with her when she leaves. With your controlling mindset and lack of moral compass you are only likely to corrupt their moral values.
She does not owe you anything
She has NO obligation to make it work with someone who deceived her and broke the marriage vows. And you cannot use the kids to blackmail her either. This is a firm of Coercive Control and a tactic used by Narcissists. She deserves her Peace without you. I hope she takes the kids with her when she leaves. With your controlling mindset and lack of moral compass you are only likely to corrupt their moral values.