I too was set back from the comment that the victim "is not all that". After all the unfaithful has no clear or fair perception of reality much less seeing their spouse for who they really. Remember at one time they did with a sound mind,and in most cases were building a bond and and making a moral decision to be faithful and committed till death do you part, years before getting married. and the affair partner, their not even 20% of who you are, people that will cheat with a married person is below ground zero. It takes a sick and unstable mind to cheat. My unfaithful husband is divorcing me because of his shame, guilt and pride. He wasn't man enough to tell me to my face he wanted a divorce because he cheated,(of course he denied he was cheating for some time only till after i confirmed it did he admit to it) he did it by phone, its coming up on 3 years this
May since he blindsided me, and he still physically can not look me in the face,I'm a reminder of, mirror of what he did. He's crawled under some rock down in NM,(I'm in the northern states). i spent these last years trying to learn something about an unfaithful mind, affair recovery has been a helpful tool, My husband is infidelity 101 , from the delusional excuses he has told me why he all of the sudden was unhappy and needed to cheat. we did have a good marriage and great life prior to his infidelity, he was a faithful and committed man. Mid life crisis is mans analogy, but it is just sin. The best thing i did was get a closer relationship with our Lord, nothing in this wicked world is better then the peace we have with Jesus, i encourage all victims to be born again in Christ, you will never regret it here or in the after life, and yes there is an after life and its up to us to seek it. There is absolutely no excuse for cheating, and its not about me or our marriage why he was not able to control himself. Its all about selfishness and blaming others for their poor choices. I pray each night for all the victims in this world, mostly i pray they find Gods peace. It was 1000 days ago this past Saturday i was blindsided, i was completely devastated and everyday i still live with the pain. but believe me when i tell you, they are trying their hardest to convince the world they've never been happier, its all part of deceptive world that they live in, believe it, it is true. i can see it thro his credit card statements. For all who are new in this and even us veterans find some comfort in that. You cant live in darkness, sin, and be right with the Lord. Sin catches up to you. There is no satisfaction or future where he is going. I still want my marriage, 1st because of my commitment to God, 2nd my commitment to myself, but the man i married doesnt exist anymore, that to is in Gods hands. No bitterness, no anger, no revenge , besides i dont need to be, because he( my still husband) has been taking care of all that, on some level i have
a lot of sympathy for him knowing what he lives with that inside of him each day. it took me well over 2 years to to get where i am at, and i still have horrible melt downs, so my prayer to all is find Gods peace , no one on this earth will ever love you as deep as our Heavenly Father does, and he promises he will always be faithful, and he does not lie. God's peace to all the victims and may a strong christian come into the lives of the unfaithful and the Holy Spirit dwell within them.
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I too was set back from the comment that the victim "is not all that". After all the unfaithful has no clear or fair perception of reality much less seeing their spouse for who they really. Remember at one time they did with a sound mind,and in most cases were building a bond and and making a moral decision to be faithful and committed till death do you part, years before getting married. and the affair partner, their not even 20% of who you are, people that will cheat with a married person is below ground zero. It takes a sick and unstable mind to cheat. My unfaithful husband is divorcing me because of his shame, guilt and pride. He wasn't man enough to tell me to my face he wanted a divorce because he cheated,(of course he denied he was cheating for some time only till after i confirmed it did he admit to it) he did it by phone, its coming up on 3 years this
May since he blindsided me, and he still physically can not look me in the face,I'm a reminder of, mirror of what he did. He's crawled under some rock down in NM,(I'm in the northern states). i spent these last years trying to learn something about an unfaithful mind, affair recovery has been a helpful tool, My husband is infidelity 101 , from the delusional excuses he has told me why he all of the sudden was unhappy and needed to cheat. we did have a good marriage and great life prior to his infidelity, he was a faithful and committed man. Mid life crisis is mans analogy, but it is just sin. The best thing i did was get a closer relationship with our Lord, nothing in this wicked world is better then the peace we have with Jesus, i encourage all victims to be born again in Christ, you will never regret it here or in the after life, and yes there is an after life and its up to us to seek it. There is absolutely no excuse for cheating, and its not about me or our marriage why he was not able to control himself. Its all about selfishness and blaming others for their poor choices. I pray each night for all the victims in this world, mostly i pray they find Gods peace. It was 1000 days ago this past Saturday i was blindsided, i was completely devastated and everyday i still live with the pain. but believe me when i tell you, they are trying their hardest to convince the world they've never been happier, its all part of deceptive world that they live in, believe it, it is true. i can see it thro his credit card statements. For all who are new in this and even us veterans find some comfort in that. You cant live in darkness, sin, and be right with the Lord. Sin catches up to you. There is no satisfaction or future where he is going. I still want my marriage, 1st because of my commitment to God, 2nd my commitment to myself, but the man i married doesnt exist anymore, that to is in Gods hands. No bitterness, no anger, no revenge , besides i dont need to be, because he( my still husband) has been taking care of all that, on some level i have
a lot of sympathy for him knowing what he lives with that inside of him each day. it took me well over 2 years to to get where i am at, and i still have horrible melt downs, so my prayer to all is find Gods peace , no one on this earth will ever love you as deep as our Heavenly Father does, and he promises he will always be faithful, and he does not lie. God's peace to all the victims and may a strong christian come into the lives of the unfaithful and the Holy Spirit dwell within them.