I wish I had been more open and honest with him about what I was doing. To have him discover on his own what I was doing was so awful and mortifying for me, but it completely decimated him. He is reeling from the trauma. If I had disclosed my affair to him, there would have most certainly been pain and trauma, but it would have been better if it had come from me I believe. It would have been a more honest way to handle what I did.
I wish I had told my husband before he found out
I wish I had been more open and honest with him about what I was doing. To have him discover on his own what I was doing was so awful and mortifying for me, but it completely decimated him. He is reeling from the trauma. If I had disclosed my affair to him, there would have most certainly been pain and trauma, but it would have been better if it had come from me I believe. It would have been a more honest way to handle what I did.