I read your post and am also recently reeling from the discovery of infidelity by my spouse. I found out four weeks ago and had done nothing but cry and isolate myself. Three days ago I got a call from my dearest friend from out of state. I cautiously asked why she was calling. Immediately she said " Just tell me what's going on". She made me realize that knowing was the best way to rebuild our marriage if we are able to. I had suspected for a while, which just made me feel anxious and suspicious. Now we can truly heal. I believe God inspired her to call me on the first day I felt I could share what was going on and for her to share the words that have helped me to accept whats happened and start a process of healing. She even got me to laugh for the first time in a month. It hurts to have a betrayal, but God didn't abandon me and he didn't abandon you. One thing my friend said really helped. We are all broken people, imperfect people that have made mistakes. She suggested that I thank God for five things everyday, even if it was just for breathing. Apparently grateful people are 25% happier. God brought her to me when I was becoming desperately low. The holy spirit moved her to speak the words I needed to hear. She even shared that some dear friends of ours had survived infidelity and I look at their marriage so admiringly. You arent alone. My daughter is getting her PhD in psychology. She told me the very sad statistic that 74% of marriages experience infidelity. I was shocked, but she said it's because couples that survive are least likely to share so it's a hidden reality. Couples do overcome with hard work and commitment. I'm not even sure we will survive this, because my husband has a very hard time sharing his emotions and being honest with what he's feeling. But I have learned that God didn't abandon me and he is there with you. I will pray for you and your spouse to to come to terms with what's happened and start a healing process and that you both keep God in the center of it all. Trust in him that, with his help, you will come to a better place for both of you. God's peace, Laura
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I read your post and am also recently reeling from the discovery of infidelity by my spouse. I found out four weeks ago and had done nothing but cry and isolate myself. Three days ago I got a call from my dearest friend from out of state. I cautiously asked why she was calling. Immediately she said " Just tell me what's going on". She made me realize that knowing was the best way to rebuild our marriage if we are able to. I had suspected for a while, which just made me feel anxious and suspicious. Now we can truly heal. I believe God inspired her to call me on the first day I felt I could share what was going on and for her to share the words that have helped me to accept whats happened and start a process of healing. She even got me to laugh for the first time in a month. It hurts to have a betrayal, but God didn't abandon me and he didn't abandon you. One thing my friend said really helped. We are all broken people, imperfect people that have made mistakes. She suggested that I thank God for five things everyday, even if it was just for breathing. Apparently grateful people are 25% happier. God brought her to me when I was becoming desperately low. The holy spirit moved her to speak the words I needed to hear. She even shared that some dear friends of ours had survived infidelity and I look at their marriage so admiringly. You arent alone. My daughter is getting her PhD in psychology. She told me the very sad statistic that 74% of marriages experience infidelity. I was shocked, but she said it's because couples that survive are least likely to share so it's a hidden reality. Couples do overcome with hard work and commitment. I'm not even sure we will survive this, because my husband has a very hard time sharing his emotions and being honest with what he's feeling. But I have learned that God didn't abandon me and he is there with you. I will pray for you and your spouse to to come to terms with what's happened and start a healing process and that you both keep God in the center of it all. Trust in him that, with his help, you will come to a better place for both of you. God's peace, Laura