In the beginning, were you able to understand his pain or try to anyway? I would love to reconcile with my husband, but all he has said is that he broke up with her and he is trying to work on himself to be a better man. It's been almost 2 months since he said that and we have not gone to counseling or taken any healthy steps towards reconciliation. He had told me at that time that he had stopped going out to bars and clubs b/c that is where a lot of his infidelity has occurred and stemmed from, but recently he has started going out again. There just doesn't seem to be anything that says he wants to actually work through things. He has not shown any apathy or ownership for the affair. I would just like to know from others who are reconciling where the cheating spouse was at when you began to reconcile. It doesn't seem to me that my husband is anywhere near the mindset for reconciliation and it is very hard to me to acknowledge that and move on as many people are telling me to.
In the beginning, were you
In the beginning, were you able to understand his pain or try to anyway? I would love to reconcile with my husband, but all he has said is that he broke up with her and he is trying to work on himself to be a better man. It's been almost 2 months since he said that and we have not gone to counseling or taken any healthy steps towards reconciliation. He had told me at that time that he had stopped going out to bars and clubs b/c that is where a lot of his infidelity has occurred and stemmed from, but recently he has started going out again. There just doesn't seem to be anything that says he wants to actually work through things. He has not shown any apathy or ownership for the affair. I would just like to know from others who are reconciling where the cheating spouse was at when you began to reconcile. It doesn't seem to me that my husband is anywhere near the mindset for reconciliation and it is very hard to me to acknowledge that and move on as many people are telling me to.