My husband is in law enforcement. I am a nurse. We have two girls. He had a female trainee that was struggling with depression ptsd and living in her van. I actually be friended this woman. She is a veteran with several issues. We wanted to help her get back on her feet and get her travel van more suitable for living in/built out. She became too comfortable and started blurring boundaries. My husband was dealing with the year anniversary of his fathers death which he was estranged fron our last child turning two and my recent back surgery recovery. Alot of triggers. I realize she fulfilled the hero complex in him and would egg him on to get very intoxicated one night i walked in on them to what sounded like kissing he was black out drunk she was sober. She ended up finally leaving our house and i had found out she gaslight our 6 year old when she was confronted be her for touching daddy to much. She ended up getting a dui two days after moving out. She nesrly lost her job. We nearly got divorced. He says he wants to work on things and he just recently fully acknowledged the relationship being totally incompletely inappropriate and admitted an emotional affair to me. I truly feel thats what i needed to here to really start to move on but my question is how do you not keep reliving or rehashing the events. They still work at the same agency. And every time hes distant i feel like im stupid for staying because i feel like im going to be the second choice.
Law enforcement spouse had an emotional affair with his trainee
My husband is in law enforcement. I am a nurse. We have two girls. He had a female trainee that was struggling with depression ptsd and living in her van. I actually be friended this woman. She is a veteran with several issues. We wanted to help her get back on her feet and get her travel van more suitable for living in/built out. She became too comfortable and started blurring boundaries. My husband was dealing with the year anniversary of his fathers death which he was estranged fron our last child turning two and my recent back surgery recovery. Alot of triggers. I realize she fulfilled the hero complex in him and would egg him on to get very intoxicated one night i walked in on them to what sounded like kissing he was black out drunk she was sober. She ended up finally leaving our house and i had found out she gaslight our 6 year old when she was confronted be her for touching daddy to much. She ended up getting a dui two days after moving out. She nesrly lost her job. We nearly got divorced. He says he wants to work on things and he just recently fully acknowledged the relationship being totally incompletely inappropriate and admitted an emotional affair to me. I truly feel thats what i needed to here to really start to move on but my question is how do you not keep reliving or rehashing the events. They still work at the same agency. And every time hes distant i feel like im stupid for staying because i feel like im going to be the second choice.