I know your heart is in the right place but I believe youre wrong here. One of the last lines of your article says this: The last thing you want to do is let another person have the power to control your peace of mind. Wouldn't this article be you doing just that? When I confronted all three affair partner, after consulting my lawyer, after calming down, after careful considering and working, sending each of them a text explaining to them that I knew and that I was divorcing my spouse, brought me such a sense if restored dignity. I no longer felt like the "only idiot who didn't know" while all three affair partners (two of whom were best friends) knew all about me. It was such by my ex spouse and thse women who care nothing about marriage. Letting them know that I nkew, that they needed to be tested for the folloiwng STD'S as my ex did not report to them that he had these and had passed them to me, and that now if they wanted tyo be safe they should do the same, it wsa gratifying to me. It was a reclaiming of a modicum of respect that they all colluded in taking from me. Whether you agree with me or not, and aren't you the one who betrayed your wife? Or was it the other way around, I do not think we give the betrayed partner enough credit to determine for herself what she needs and does not need in terms of restoring some of her own power and in her journey to trust her own gut, which by the way, mine happened to be right, right from the start. But lies, manipulation, bullying and verbal abuse, him accusing me of losing my mind kept me in psychological hell.... while he and his groupies were bar crawling and sleeping with one another. I'm a professional. I'm a therapist myself. I KNOW what I needed and confroting each one in a dignified way, while also exposing the recklessness of their actions in the passing of dangerous diseases felt wonderful. I was controlled and calm and restored. Then I carried on with my divorce knowing that as a daughter of God, I deserve so much better than what this man had done to me.
betrayed kparnter
Hi Rick,
I know your heart is in the right place but I believe youre wrong here. One of the last lines of your article says this: The last thing you want to do is let another person have the power to control your peace of mind. Wouldn't this article be you doing just that? When I confronted all three affair partner, after consulting my lawyer, after calming down, after careful considering and working, sending each of them a text explaining to them that I knew and that I was divorcing my spouse, brought me such a sense if restored dignity. I no longer felt like the "only idiot who didn't know" while all three affair partners (two of whom were best friends) knew all about me. It was such by my ex spouse and thse women who care nothing about marriage. Letting them know that I nkew, that they needed to be tested for the folloiwng STD'S as my ex did not report to them that he had these and had passed them to me, and that now if they wanted tyo be safe they should do the same, it wsa gratifying to me. It was a reclaiming of a modicum of respect that they all colluded in taking from me. Whether you agree with me or not, and aren't you the one who betrayed your wife? Or was it the other way around, I do not think we give the betrayed partner enough credit to determine for herself what she needs and does not need in terms of restoring some of her own power and in her journey to trust her own gut, which by the way, mine happened to be right, right from the start. But lies, manipulation, bullying and verbal abuse, him accusing me of losing my mind kept me in psychological hell.... while he and his groupies were bar crawling and sleeping with one another. I'm a professional. I'm a therapist myself. I KNOW what I needed and confroting each one in a dignified way, while also exposing the recklessness of their actions in the passing of dangerous diseases felt wonderful. I was controlled and calm and restored. Then I carried on with my divorce knowing that as a daughter of God, I deserve so much better than what this man had done to me.