Dear Traci,
I'm post 9 years, and I just NOW can think about all that happened and not feel a stab of physical pain. We stayed together, but it took years of pain, tears, more lies, counselors, moving out, moving back, etc.... Give it time. If your spouse really loves you and is remorseful, it is possible to work through it. Definitely not easy!!! There has to be total transparency and authenticity. As the betrayed spouse, I don't put up with any of the b***shit. Your spouse MUST put you at the top of the list and prioritize your relationship. If he can't do that right away, give him time, but don't let him make you feel bad doe bringing it up "all the time." You have that right. You didn't ask for this pain and suffering, but he did. He must deal with the consequences of his actions, and put YOU at the top of his list.
As I said, it takes time and the patience of Job, but it is possible. I'm sorry you're in so much pain. This journey has been the worst pain of my life.
Dear Traci,
Dear Traci,
I'm post 9 years, and I just NOW can think about all that happened and not feel a stab of physical pain. We stayed together, but it took years of pain, tears, more lies, counselors, moving out, moving back, etc.... Give it time. If your spouse really loves you and is remorseful, it is possible to work through it. Definitely not easy!!! There has to be total transparency and authenticity. As the betrayed spouse, I don't put up with any of the b***shit. Your spouse MUST put you at the top of the list and prioritize your relationship. If he can't do that right away, give him time, but don't let him make you feel bad doe bringing it up "all the time." You have that right. You didn't ask for this pain and suffering, but he did. He must deal with the consequences of his actions, and put YOU at the top of his list.
As I said, it takes time and the patience of Job, but it is possible. I'm sorry you're in so much pain. This journey has been the worst pain of my life.