I have thought about what I'm going to write here. And I have started over with my comment so many times. There is no right or wrong answer. I have come to realize over the years that there is trauma being caused to people, because of wrong choices, that is just too hard to forgive out of our own power and we deem it unforgivable. Like this woman's inlaws, they couldnt forgive her for what she's done. It was just a wrong choice, it wasn't as if she was a bad mother or were out to purposefully cause harm.
Some of us who have been cheated on cannot forgive our spouse, and deem that act unforgivable. I am not defending the unfaithfull, but if I were to put myself in my husband's shoes, wouldn't I want him to fight for me and forgive me? I have come to learn what the true meaning of forgiving 70x7 like the Bible says means, with my husband who cheated on me several times. This last time was the one that hit me the hardest and I couldn't do anything out of myself. I realized, like some of you already said, that forgiveness is for myself. If I do not forgive, I fan the flame of anger, wrath, hatred. I destroy myself (and I will not give that control and satisfaction to the affair partner.)I cannot live freely and my relationship with my Father in Heaven is severely hindered. And why would I want to give the enemy that upperhand???
I asked Christ daily to help me forgive, especially the woman who purposefully tried to destroy my family and my miracle son's life, and she doesn't even know me. Did I forgive her and my husband? YES.
Is the wounds still there? Heck yes, and will be for a long time.
Do I believe that God can change my husband?
MOST ABSOLUTELY!
He is already changing him. My husband realized he had a problem and together we are working on it. I speak positively over our marriage and over my husband daily.
You see...
I CHOOSE to love
I CHOOSE to forgive
I CHOOSE to be free
Forgiveness
I have thought about what I'm going to write here. And I have started over with my comment so many times. There is no right or wrong answer. I have come to realize over the years that there is trauma being caused to people, because of wrong choices, that is just too hard to forgive out of our own power and we deem it unforgivable. Like this woman's inlaws, they couldnt forgive her for what she's done. It was just a wrong choice, it wasn't as if she was a bad mother or were out to purposefully cause harm.
Some of us who have been cheated on cannot forgive our spouse, and deem that act unforgivable. I am not defending the unfaithfull, but if I were to put myself in my husband's shoes, wouldn't I want him to fight for me and forgive me? I have come to learn what the true meaning of forgiving 70x7 like the Bible says means, with my husband who cheated on me several times. This last time was the one that hit me the hardest and I couldn't do anything out of myself. I realized, like some of you already said, that forgiveness is for myself. If I do not forgive, I fan the flame of anger, wrath, hatred. I destroy myself (and I will not give that control and satisfaction to the affair partner.)I cannot live freely and my relationship with my Father in Heaven is severely hindered. And why would I want to give the enemy that upperhand???
I asked Christ daily to help me forgive, especially the woman who purposefully tried to destroy my family and my miracle son's life, and she doesn't even know me. Did I forgive her and my husband? YES.
Is the wounds still there? Heck yes, and will be for a long time.
Do I believe that God can change my husband?
MOST ABSOLUTELY!
He is already changing him. My husband realized he had a problem and together we are working on it. I speak positively over our marriage and over my husband daily.
You see...
I CHOOSE to love
I CHOOSE to forgive
I CHOOSE to be free