Precisely what Janell said. I think this article should be removed. The only piece of comparison is that if you finally choose to forgive, you will need to keep forgiving over and over because the trauma and the rage and triggers will be there for a long time. Infidelity is not something that just happens. It’s not a mistake. Or an accident due to a moment of distraction while trying your hardest to be a good person but you have too many things going on and make a terrible mistake. I can’t see how this scenario is in any way comparable to infidelity or it’s aftermath. In fact I don’t find stories about accidents happening to good people or people making honest mistakes helps me in any way to process what my “husband” did deliberately, callously, without remorse to me (and more recently my children) over and over again until he was exposed or how I might come to forgive him for those deliberate acts. All it makes me think is why do these awful things happen to good people when people who constantly make bad, dangerous, reckless, hurtful conscious decisions to put their own fun and adventure ahead of their commitment to their spouses and family get to live their life exactly the way they please for decades. I would be more interested in hearing stories and insights that are directly on point.
Absolutely agree - this adds so little
Precisely what Janell said. I think this article should be removed. The only piece of comparison is that if you finally choose to forgive, you will need to keep forgiving over and over because the trauma and the rage and triggers will be there for a long time. Infidelity is not something that just happens. It’s not a mistake. Or an accident due to a moment of distraction while trying your hardest to be a good person but you have too many things going on and make a terrible mistake. I can’t see how this scenario is in any way comparable to infidelity or it’s aftermath. In fact I don’t find stories about accidents happening to good people or people making honest mistakes helps me in any way to process what my “husband” did deliberately, callously, without remorse to me (and more recently my children) over and over again until he was exposed or how I might come to forgive him for those deliberate acts. All it makes me think is why do these awful things happen to good people when people who constantly make bad, dangerous, reckless, hurtful conscious decisions to put their own fun and adventure ahead of their commitment to their spouses and family get to live their life exactly the way they please for decades. I would be more interested in hearing stories and insights that are directly on point.