Hi Rick, Thank you so much for this article as well as the others you have posted. While I was not ready to hear or understand this message I am now and I can not thank you enough. You are spot on in that in the early stages of grieving it was not possible for me to hear and digest this message but fortunately some time had passed and the healing process had begun. I did not see before because of the pain how transformative this experience cold be for me and my life. Rather I just wanted my old life back before being on the receiving end of betrayal. Through recovery I can now see how there is a better life for me because of the growth from this experience. My wife and I have been together for 20 years and I never thought this could happen to us. After it did and I began to recover, following months of grieving, I was able to see my role in problems in our relationship and identify things I need to improve. I am not saying it was my fault not that I deserved it but rather I am taking responsibility for the parts that are mine. This is a tough process but as you said a highly rewarding thing once you get through it in that you get a new lease in life following an extreme amount if growth that occurs during recovery. I have no clue as to whether or not my marriage will survive despitey willingness to try and her uncertainty about what she wants next but I do know that I will be fine either way now and that life is good, both of which I was missing before despite thinking I was happy and content. I have found that self examination and taking caring of me can lead to growth I never knew possible and I feel that your article combined with other efforts I have begun since finding out about the affair has literally saved my life andade the future brighter than I ever thought possible, so Thank You again for all that you do. Best, S.
Hi Rick,Thank you so much
Hi Rick, Thank you so much for this article as well as the others you have posted. While I was not ready to hear or understand this message I am now and I can not thank you enough. You are spot on in that in the early stages of grieving it was not possible for me to hear and digest this message but fortunately some time had passed and the healing process had begun. I did not see before because of the pain how transformative this experience cold be for me and my life. Rather I just wanted my old life back before being on the receiving end of betrayal. Through recovery I can now see how there is a better life for me because of the growth from this experience. My wife and I have been together for 20 years and I never thought this could happen to us. After it did and I began to recover, following months of grieving, I was able to see my role in problems in our relationship and identify things I need to improve. I am not saying it was my fault not that I deserved it but rather I am taking responsibility for the parts that are mine. This is a tough process but as you said a highly rewarding thing once you get through it in that you get a new lease in life following an extreme amount if growth that occurs during recovery. I have no clue as to whether or not my marriage will survive despitey willingness to try and her uncertainty about what she wants next but I do know that I will be fine either way now and that life is good, both of which I was missing before despite thinking I was happy and content. I have found that self examination and taking caring of me can lead to growth I never knew possible and I feel that your article combined with other efforts I have begun since finding out about the affair has literally saved my life andade the future brighter than I ever thought possible, so Thank You again for all that you do. Best, S.