Thank you for your articles. They have helped me identify my emotions. You have given me a voice. When your life is shattered and you realize what you thought you had was not real, you start to doubt your thinking; your emotions. Right now we are still together, but like other readers, I don't have the same feelings anymore. The way I look at my spouse is very different now. I don't know if I will ever feel those feelings again, but I'm not sure I want to because those feelings didn't want to see what was really taking place in our relationship. The rose-colored glasses are gone. I don't know if our marriage will survive, but I know I will be alright either way. I no longer look at my spouse as my world. He does not complete me and he can't possibly meet all my needs. Conversely, I cannot make him happy or fulfill all his needs. He is responsible for his choices as am I, but all choices bring consequences, both good and bad. I don't wish the pain we have suffered and are still suffering on anyone, but it has transformed me. I see subtle changes in my spouse, but now I don't know if they are real or fake. Once trust is broken it's very hard to restore. Actions speak much louder than words, but they must be consistent, genuine actions. Only time, forgiveness and faithfulness will tell.
Neutral Zone
Thank you for your articles. They have helped me identify my emotions. You have given me a voice. When your life is shattered and you realize what you thought you had was not real, you start to doubt your thinking; your emotions. Right now we are still together, but like other readers, I don't have the same feelings anymore. The way I look at my spouse is very different now. I don't know if I will ever feel those feelings again, but I'm not sure I want to because those feelings didn't want to see what was really taking place in our relationship. The rose-colored glasses are gone. I don't know if our marriage will survive, but I know I will be alright either way. I no longer look at my spouse as my world. He does not complete me and he can't possibly meet all my needs. Conversely, I cannot make him happy or fulfill all his needs. He is responsible for his choices as am I, but all choices bring consequences, both good and bad. I don't wish the pain we have suffered and are still suffering on anyone, but it has transformed me. I see subtle changes in my spouse, but now I don't know if they are real or fake. Once trust is broken it's very hard to restore. Actions speak much louder than words, but they must be consistent, genuine actions. Only time, forgiveness and faithfulness will tell.