We are 14 months from the original D day and 6 months from the D Day of full truth. I am the unfaithful. My husband does not want to seek any counseling, books, videos for himself. He also only wants us (We share finances.) to pay for counseling through insurance, and he knows I have purchased several books. I have suggested EMS, and he refuses.
I have read, listened, attended counseling and am continuing. He has said he is "trying". I am unsure what work I need and how else to help US and ME. Can I help him? I believe we are both committed to the marriage, and I know he is very unhappy. He still has multi hour anger sessions about once a week.
How do I help him? What can I do to help him? Me? Us? Please share the timeline for recovery article. Also, is there any order/suggestion for watching the videos? Thank you so much for all your help! I really do appreciate everything.
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We are 14 months from the original D day and 6 months from the D Day of full truth. I am the unfaithful. My husband does not want to seek any counseling, books, videos for himself. He also only wants us (We share finances.) to pay for counseling through insurance, and he knows I have purchased several books. I have suggested EMS, and he refuses.
I have read, listened, attended counseling and am continuing. He has said he is "trying". I am unsure what work I need and how else to help US and ME. Can I help him? I believe we are both committed to the marriage, and I know he is very unhappy. He still has multi hour anger sessions about once a week.
How do I help him? What can I do to help him? Me? Us? Please share the timeline for recovery article. Also, is there any order/suggestion for watching the videos? Thank you so much for all your help! I really do appreciate everything.