That it is almost MORE important to the betrayed to see the unfaithful taking charge of their recovery full force. True initiative in wanting to heal; seeking out every resource available. We don’t need them to find recovery for us; they already damaged us. Give us space to heal. But, trusting and having faith in the unfaithful as a partner in a marriage is next to impossible until they actually show real tangible initiative in their own help. Personally, I don’t need a broken man to rescue me, and I don’t want to have to rescue him. I want a partner; a real partner in our marriage. It’s all I ever wanted. Instead, he fell for exactly the person who treated him like a victim and perpetuated the triangle with him trading places of rescuer and victim, making everyone else a perpetrator.
I won’t do that for him. I expect, truth, honesty, and a partner. Simple.
I would add even,
That it is almost MORE important to the betrayed to see the unfaithful taking charge of their recovery full force. True initiative in wanting to heal; seeking out every resource available. We don’t need them to find recovery for us; they already damaged us. Give us space to heal. But, trusting and having faith in the unfaithful as a partner in a marriage is next to impossible until they actually show real tangible initiative in their own help. Personally, I don’t need a broken man to rescue me, and I don’t want to have to rescue him. I want a partner; a real partner in our marriage. It’s all I ever wanted. Instead, he fell for exactly the person who treated him like a victim and perpetuated the triangle with him trading places of rescuer and victim, making everyone else a perpetrator.
I won’t do that for him. I expect, truth, honesty, and a partner. Simple.