You help me hold on to hope with your videos. I'm an unfaithful but it seems most of the videos help in scenarios where the unfaithful doesn't "get it". It's so hard to tell what's normal when the roles are reversed.
I'm never inconvenienced by my husband's pain. I'll do whatever it takes. But what if after a year of doing everything you can, you're still shamed by your spouse? I don't want to give up but I wonder what's normal. I know it's different with betrayed males and there's little information out there where the roles are like my own.
I read some articles that mentioned shaming yourself is self-centered. But what if your spouse is always shaming? How can I NOT shame myself when my spouse does it on a regular basis? I know I deserve it but I also wonder how we will ever get to a healthy place if this becomes the new normal...
Pain
You help me hold on to hope with your videos. I'm an unfaithful but it seems most of the videos help in scenarios where the unfaithful doesn't "get it". It's so hard to tell what's normal when the roles are reversed.
I'm never inconvenienced by my husband's pain. I'll do whatever it takes. But what if after a year of doing everything you can, you're still shamed by your spouse? I don't want to give up but I wonder what's normal. I know it's different with betrayed males and there's little information out there where the roles are like my own.
I read some articles that mentioned shaming yourself is self-centered. But what if your spouse is always shaming? How can I NOT shame myself when my spouse does it on a regular basis? I know I deserve it but I also wonder how we will ever get to a healthy place if this becomes the new normal...
Thoughts?..