We are 3 weeks into separation. He admitted to sleeping with his affair 1 time, do I believe him I don't know. He has only been in contact with her via phone and text and snapchat for what I can account 2 months. We've been together 27 years and this came out of no where for me. Says he loves me but not in love with me. Blames me for negative attitude that led to him feeling this way. I feel is isn't out of love with me but in lust with the excitement of the affair. He says he is going to his own personal counseling but her refuses to go to couples counseling, he refuses to stop contact with his affair partner and he is ignoring all friends and family. He sounds so hollow when we do have to speak. All he keeps talking about is wanting this divorce. Other things he says and does scream Mid Life Crisis is there hope for him to ever regret his actions and want to make our marriage work? Am I a fool for hoping? This is a man I've loved for more then half my life and I'm worried. This isn't a decision I can take lightly but when I asked him how he can he says ' I don't know I'm just not happy' Will he ever come to his senses ? Can my marriage be saved?
Husband cheated but said only because he fell out of love w/me
We are 3 weeks into separation. He admitted to sleeping with his affair 1 time, do I believe him I don't know. He has only been in contact with her via phone and text and snapchat for what I can account 2 months. We've been together 27 years and this came out of no where for me. Says he loves me but not in love with me. Blames me for negative attitude that led to him feeling this way. I feel is isn't out of love with me but in lust with the excitement of the affair. He says he is going to his own personal counseling but her refuses to go to couples counseling, he refuses to stop contact with his affair partner and he is ignoring all friends and family. He sounds so hollow when we do have to speak. All he keeps talking about is wanting this divorce. Other things he says and does scream Mid Life Crisis is there hope for him to ever regret his actions and want to make our marriage work? Am I a fool for hoping? This is a man I've loved for more then half my life and I'm worried. This isn't a decision I can take lightly but when I asked him how he can he says ' I don't know I'm just not happy' Will he ever come to his senses ? Can my marriage be saved?