I know this article was written to men, but just wanted to point out that wives can be sexually humiliated as well...especially when their husbands choose a younger, fitter woman for their affair. He tells me the emotional part was more important to him, but the facts are that the EA was quite short-lived, and the physical thing went on for many months. I am a woman, and an affair victim, and have had many of the same thoughts you mentioned. I might be wrong, but had this only been an emotional affair, I think I could've had an easier recovery. Who knows, I may never recover.
Females are humiliated too!