Really?

Submitted by markr on
I'm calling BS on this. Maybe for the majority, but not in our case. My wife was involved with a former BF from HS she reconnected with on FB. The affair lasted 2 1/2 years. Everything you describe is either true, or I've thought it. Was he better? Of course... in her own words the sex as "AWESOME". She disturbed the neighbours in their hotel with her sounds. She did things she would never do to me. She allowed things I was never allowed to do. AND... she still desires it. But not with me. After nearly a year, and EMS, Harboring Hope, Hope for Healing, Local Counseling.... etc. She still desires him. And what do we have for our (my efforts)? A relapse after 7 months and still no intimacy of physical contact... and no desire. But also no guts to call it over. Emasculated... Definitely. In her words... I was "Dehumanized". Where we go from here? Where do I go from here... I have no idea. As posted in another section I still trust God, but have no trust for her, or these programs from these "experts". They've helps us accomplish nothing. I hope others have a different outcome. Best wishes to all who are still fighting for what is RIGHT. MR